The Courage to LOVE, Trust & LET THEM BE FREE

Trust. It’s such a simple word—yet one of the most complex practices we face in relationships.

In last week’s Radiate Health and Wellness blog & podcast, we explored how trust and honesty are the foundation of connection. But in this week’s theme takes trust to another level: the kind of trust it takes to let go.

Letting go of control.
Letting go of fear.
Letting go of the need to manage someone else’s journey.

It’s not easy—but it’s necessary.

🧓🏽 Trusting My Dad to Stand on His Own

After the recent loss of my mom, our family entered a season of surrender. My dad—who had relied heavily on her for so much—suddenly had to learn how to live alone, manage a household, and take care of himself.

At first, I wanted to step in, fix everything, and make sure he was okay. My brother and I encouraged him to move to Hawaii with us so we could care for him. But my dad—stubborn and proud—chose to stay in Utah, in the home he shared with my mom.

And that’s when the deeper lesson began.
We had to trust him.

With compassion, my brother stayed behind for two weeks after the funeral, teaching my dad the basics—grocery shopping, meal prepping, laundry, using a phone. It was beautiful. And now? We let go. Not because we don’t care—but because we trust.

Trust that he can learn.
Trust that he’ll ask for help when needed.
Trust that love sometimes means stepping back, not stepping in.

👩‍👧‍👦 Trusting My Kids to Make Their Own Choices

This practice of trust shows up in parenting, too. I’ve raised three incredible children—but releasing control is an ongoing journey. As moms, we want to help, protect, and guide. But too often, our help turns into control… and control squeezes out trust.

I’ve had to remind myself:

“Christine, you’ve given them the tools. Now let them use them.”

Yes, they’ll make mistakes.
Yes, their choices won’t always align with mine.
But those experiences are part of their path.

True trust means honoring their growth—even when it looks different than what we would choose.

🌱 So… How Do We Practice Trust?

Here are a few ways to begin trusting others—and yourself—more deeply:

1. Pause before stepping in.
   Ask yourself: Am I helping out of love… or out of fear?

2. Affirm their capability.
   Say (out loud if needed): “I trust you to figure this out. I’m here if you need me.”

3. Release the outcome.
   Let go of how you think things should unfold. Let their journey be theirs.

4. Reflect on your own growth.
   Remember the times when mistakes helped you grow. Offer others the same grace.

5. Practice self-trust first.
   The more you trust your own path, the easier it is to trust others with theirs.

💛 A Loving Reminder

Trust doesn’t mean abandoning those you love.
It means believing in their strength.
It means holding space, not control.
It means loving them enough to let them rise.

Whether you're parenting adult children, supporting aging parents, or navigating grief and change, trust is the soil where growth blooms.

So I ask gently:
Where can you soften your grip?
Where might trust offer more peace than control ever could?

✨ If this message speaks to your heart, I invite you to:

• 🎧 Listen to the full episode here on SPOTIFY

• 📘 Explore my books: Discover the Adventure of You & Health BEAMS

• 🌐 Schedule a free consultation: RadiateHealthAndWellness.com

With trust and love,
Coach Christine 🌺